Open-opinion: Chatting and ignoring

Hi there, everyone.
I guess it is time for another one of my "open-discussion journals".


This time, it is about friendly chatter with people and ignoring it deliberately.

Do you know how it is, when you have a friendly chat with people and then suddenly they stop replying?
And it doesn't only happen once, but almost on a daily basis from a certain point in time on?
What do you think when that happens? What is your opinion on such kind of behavior?


Of course, I don't want to conceal mine. So here goes...

Personally, I don't think such kind of behavior is okay at all.

Okay, granted, This always tends to happen.
So it is totally fine if it isn't done on purpose, like when the internet connection acts faulty or it was just forgotten.
Or when dealing with a hostile person. Then it is totally fine to ignore that.

But this isn't about chatting with trolls and assholes. This is about friendly chatter, with friends and buddies.
And if it happens in such a case DELIBERATELY, then my opinion on it stands, that it is not okay.


I mean, it is basic manners, that if someone talks to you in a nice, acceptable manner, you reply.
Period.
Ignoring the person and turning your back on him or her just like that is an absolute NO-GO. It's an insolence.
They even taught us that in elementary school. So it is basic manners.


But what if someone doesn't want to chat anymore or not about a certain subject?
Or if someone is suddenly very busy?

It's okay. Stuff like that happens.
But you still should let the person know that and not leave him or her in the dark and abandon the person all of a sudden.
That's not okay!

Tell the person honestly "Look! I don't want to talk about this anymore. Can we change the subject?"
or
"I've got something else to do now. Can we talk later?"
Or something like that.
Either way, such messages get the point across, the person on the other side then knows exactly what's going on and doesn't have to get through the torture of uncertainty.
And not to forget: THEY ARE QUICKLY WRITTEN!

Typing such messages is a matter of seconds.
And nobody can tell me that they don't even have the time for that.


Not to mention that sudden silence generally conveys bad feelings.
So in my case, it would get the feeling across the that person has some kind of problem with me, to put it mildly.
Like I did something wrong and the person is now angry with me.

So uncertainty is something you definitely DO NOT WANT TO CREATE!
It's torture and outright unfair.



So much for my opinion.
What are your thoughts on this subject?
Feel free to let me know. I am always curious.